Dating And Sex

Dating in today's world has changed dramatically in the last half century. The subject of sex, and even the act itself, has become more recognized as an acceptable part of a date in today's world.
In the 1950's and early 1960's the subject of sex was rarely discussed or considered in such an open manner, on a date, as it is today. This is not to say that sex, or the subject of sex, has never made an 'appearance' on a date. On the contrary, sex, on many occasions, has indeed 'inserted' itself into a date. The difference between then and now is that those occurrences were the exception, rather than the rule.
For the broad majority of daters in those times, the subject of sex was kept in the background. Sex was the unspoken of 'elephant' in the room. As one might expect, in a situation where two healthy young members of the opposite sex are sharing close quarters, there was always an undercurrent of sexual electricity in the air. It just was not openly, or crassly, acknowledged by the dating couple.
Most of the dates back then, followed along similar lines. During a date, a guy could make suggestive jokes and/or comments, and sometimes, playfully hug and grab the girl, but he knew where to draw the line - and had enough class not to cross it. A girl flirted and looked knowingly at her date, and depending on the circumstances, might allow a certain degree of superficial physical contact. Still, she wouldn't go so far as to put herself into a compromising situation that she couldn't get out of.
Most dates culminated in a 'good night kiss'. Some went further, and included 'heavy petting', which included tongue kissing, fondling, etc. - but no 'skin' came out into the open. Finally, a smaller group included those who went 'all the way'; but as previously mentioned, this group was the exception, rather than the rule. It was rare that a dating couple would have sex during the early stages of 'courtship'.
While there is no question that sex was always in the background of a date, the daters had enough self-restraint, or, self-respect, to prevent it from coming to the fore.
In today's world of dating, sex has taken a much more prominent role. On most dates, sex is openly discussed and talked about by both daters. There's little embarrassment in answering questions about one's past sexual experience, one's likes or dislikes, or even one's level of sexual expertise. Questions of this nature are neither embarrassing to the participants, nor, thought of to be intruding upon one's personal and private business.
In fact, if the subject of sex isn't brought up, the dater is often thought of as boring or inexperienced, rather than respectful of one's privacy.
Even more disturbing is the number of first time daters that engage in sex after knowing one another for mere hours. Many guys come right out and ask their date if they have ever had a 'one night stand', and/or if they would be interested in having a 'one night stand'. Few girls are insulted by this line of questioning, and answer as if they were at a job interview. Worse still, some girls consider the request, and some even agree to it.
When it comes to sex, it seems as though the thought process of some of these young women has become slightly warped. Point in fact, an increasing number of young women today insist that a certain type of sex, which I will not describe here, is not, in fact, sex. They say sex only occurs when two people lay together and have sexual intercourse. They say that any other sex act isn't a sex act at all, and such acts are no worse than kissing. With this type of thinking, it's plain to see how easy it is for unscrupulous males to exploit these naive and ill-informed females.
The level of self-respect and self-control, in many of today's dating couples, seems to have declined in direct ratio to the increase of their unabashed and unbridled lust.
It would be wise, for the daters of today, to keep in mind that while it cannot be denied that having sex is a pleasurable experience, it can also be a costly one. The act of sex carries consequences and responsibilities that are frequently underestimated, and often overlooked.
Pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, family crisis, and a loss of standing in one's community are just some of the consequences of an 'uncontrolled libido'. Sexual choices made by daters must be fashioned with foresight, self-control, and a willingness to accept responsibility for one's actions.
When dating couples are able to exert a degree of control over their sexual desires, they will be more likely to have enjoyable, rewarding, and respectful relationships with one another.

Sex Addiction: How To Overcome Sex Addiction

Sexual addiction is described as a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts. Like all other addictions, its negative impact on the addict and on family members increases as the disorder progresses. Over time, the addict has to intensify the addictive behavior to achieve the same results.
For some sex addicts, behavior does not progress beyond compulsive masturbation or the widespread use of pornography or phone or computer sex services. For others, addiction can involve illegal activities such as voyeurism, exhibitionism, obscene phone calls, child molestation or rape. Sex addicts do not inevitably become sex offenders. Furthermore, not all sex offenders are sex addicts. According to psychcentral roughly 55% of convicted sex offenders can be considered sex addicts. About 71% of child molesters are sex addicts. For many, their problems are so severe that imprisonment is only the way to ensure society’s safety against them.
According to a sex poll of over 8,000 women conducted by http://www.WomanSavers.com, over 54% of women said they were sexually molested by an adult male as a child. Statistics such as these are shocking and confirm how serious of a problem sexual addiction actually is in our society.
Society has accepted that a sex offender’s actions stems not from sexual fulfillment, but rather out of a disturbed need for power, dominance, control or revenge, or a perverted expression of anger. More recently, however, an awareness of brain changes and brain reward related with sexual behavior has led us to understand that there are also powerful sexual drives that motivate sex offenses.
Overcoming Sexual Addiction
The consequences of sexual addiction may be devastating to not only the addict but also those close to him/her. It can leave an addict isolated, immensely anxious and depressed to the point of being suicidal. Low self-esteem, hopelessness, shame, and despair are also common feelings experienced by sex addicts. The ramifications of sex addiction do not end on an emotional level but rather, continue onto medical, financial and legal ones too.
Medical consequences of sex addiction may include HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as syphilis, genital herpes and gonorrhea. In addition, genital injury may result from unnecessary sexual activity or the use of foreign objects for sexual stimulation.
Financial consequences of sex addiction may include the loss of one's job, getting sued over sexual harassment or sexual abuse charges resulting in legal fees. Purchasing pornographic material, use of prostitutes, calling 900 phone numbers and traveling for the individual purpose of sexual contacts can create enormous debt in credit card bills and exhaust the financial resources of an addict often many times to the point of bankruptcy.
Legal consequences of sexual addiction include the arrest and incarceration of sex addict. The addict's out of control lifestyle make him to engage in high risk, illegal activities such as voyeurism, exhibitionism, inappropriate touching and the solicitation of prostitutes.
A basic approach in recognizing any addictive behavior is to assess whether it is creating irresistible trouble in your life and yet you choose to return to it despite the problem.
If your sexual behavior is exhausting your time and energy and it causes you to compromise your core values and the beliefs that you hold dear to your heart then there is cause for alarm. Seek help through therapy or join a Sexaholics Anonymous group. The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem.

How To Please A Woman Sexually

One of the most complicating and confusing issues that every guy would face would be how to please a woman sexually. It can be an arduous task when it comes to figuring out what their women really needs. Some men are able to please their spouses without even having the need to figure anything. Maybe it just comes to them naturally. You can never find any two women that have similar sexual likings. Every women have a different view on it and as such, it is important that you understand your woman deep down inside so that you can easily improve your relationship with her. You need to put in a little bit of effort, and understand her deeper in order to have the special connection with her.
Women in general enjoy love making as much as men. Most women don’t really express their desire for sex, but as a man, you ought to know these feelings that are pertaining to your spouse.
Here are just some of the tips that you use on how to maker her a satisfied woman:
#1 Don’t be embarrassed and ask her how is your performance in bed. Listen to what she has got to comment and ask her for any suggestions on how you can improve. Most women are pretty comfortable when it comes to expressing their sexual desires. This does not mean that you should restrict all conversation just between the four walls of your bedroom. The bedroom somewhat makes them feel boxed in and as such, they might not be very eager to open up.
#2 Have a lot mutual understanding at all times. You must be willing to try whatever your woman suggests. This helps to develop trust between the two of you and this also gives you opportunity to try new and different sexual positions with her. If you get lucky, your spouse might just love it.
#3 One of the most annoying issues that women face all the time is when the man tries to help her with masturbation, but he is doing it all wrong. It is a huge turn off and this affects the woman’s sexual desires. As the matter of fact, she will just lose her mood for any form of sexual activity with you. As such, try to learn from her and how she pleasures herself. Try it on her the way she does it and try your best to bring her to an orgasm. If you get the methods right, you will get to increase her sexual pleasure and put it to greater heights.
#4 Communicating in bed is also one of the important steps to when it comes to understanding her sexually. When the room gets heated up and you are just feeling wild, you tend to lose sense of your surroundings. This would also mean that you might overlook how you partner is feeling. You might be feeling on top of the world, but your partner is not. How about using special “code” words that could help her to signal to you when to stop or when to go faster and harder.
These basic tips should be more than sufficient to get you started with a more romantic and fulfilling love-making session. It takes two to tango! You should not be the only one who is getting all the pleasurable treatments. Your spouse is a human after all and by giving satisfaction to both parties, both of you will definitely get to have a rocking good time.

Submmitted By Micheal Dat

The 5 Minute Guide to Bringing Sexy Back For The New Mom

I understand the frumpy feel of being a new mom. I have definitely been there and done that! For some reason, in our heads once we have a baby we forget about the fact that we are women and we need to nurture and celebrate that we are still a woman. I learned a long time ago that in life it is the little things that make the biggest difference. This is especially true in all things pertaining to motherhood. The little things do not have to cost a fortune. There is no need for them to; they are just simple things that make a big difference. This is a list of tips you can implement to help you feel sexy and more confident. My first tip for you is to create a daily ritual to care for yourself. This is time for you, time to take a shower, put lotion on and do your hair. While you can do this ritual anytime during the day, try to do it in the morning. Even if it is only a ten minute habit, it can transform the way you feel and help get your ready to face the day. Really nothing can make you feel sexier than being clean, fresh and soft. These are simple little things that can make all the difference in the world. Tip number two: Go buy a sexy nightie. I know you look in the mirror and go 'yeah right'! But I am serious; it doesn't have to be see through or skimpy, just cute or sexy. Come on, close your eyes and imagine the feel of the cool clean silk sliding over your body in your favorite color, maybe red! As a new mom, you will probably be spending a lot of time in your nightie in those initial days and weeks, so the next time you are picking up diapers make sure that you pick up a sexy nightie for you. Tip number three: Exercise and get fresh air. Yes, it may seem hard in a sleep deprived state to even contemplate exercise but I promise you that you will feel better. Start out slowly, since you really need to focus on conserving your energy to speed your recovery from labor and the birth. Contrary to popular belief, complex, difficult and expensive programs have not been shown to be any more effective than a simple walking program for general conditioning. A simple walking routine in the early weeks and months after labor can positively affect a range of problems from depression and anxiety, to diabetes and constipation. Tip number four: Wear perfume or scented lotions. Simple floral or citrus scents can really enliven the senses. Warm scents such as vanilla are comforting and soothing. Wearing perfume or scented lotions not only wake up your senses, but your husband's as well! There is undoubtedly a strong connection between feeling good and smelling good. Smell can definitely help 'bring the sexy back' and put a little energy back in your relationship. Tip number five: Have lunch or dinner with friends. Part of bringing sexy back means remembering what it is like to be a woman and there is no better way than chill with your friends and have girl talk. Even if your friends don't have kids, hanging out with them for a while is a nice way to focus on you as a woman and not you as a mom. There are so many simple things that you can do each and everyday to help reconnect with the sexy side of you. These are just a few ideas that I wanted to share to help you embrace each day as a new mom.
Author Resource:- Salena Kulkarni